30 Days of Boundaries: Day 6 - Empty Your Closet

Yesterday I talked about the importance of exercise and if you stay true to your word and start working out on a frequent basis and also watch what you consume food wise, eventually you're going to run into a situation where your clothes will no longer fit.

That's happened to me from time to time over my life and I anticipate in 2018 there will be some new clothes in my life because the clothes that I'm wearing will no longer fit me properly.

Then that way I can donate my clothes to somebody else, and then I can get some replacement clothes that fit me better.

One of the things, and I'll talk about this more about tomorrow, is how clutter can cause stress. Which from a boundary standpoint, you need to mitigate the amount of stress that you have in your life. Clutter is a big component to it, whether you realize it or not. We'll talk about that more tomorrow.

Specifically, I want you to do this homework for the next day or two. Take everything out of your closet. Then, put all of your hangers back in, if you have your clothes on hangers. If not, then, at least fold all your clothes properly. But fold them backwards compared to how you normally fold. Everything. Then, as you start wearing clothes, put them back in the way that you normally would store them.

What will happen is over a period of time you will start seeing the clothes that you often wear and you'll figure out the clothes that you don't. Those clothes that you don't often wear because "they don't quite fit right and you're going to "lose weight" and then they will fit" - donate them. Get rid of them.

If you have not been motivated at this point to do what you need to do in order to fit those clothes, they're never going to fit. Get rid of them and donate them to somebody that can actually use them because staying in your closet is not going to help anybody when it comes to the clothes that people need.

There are many people in the world that don't have the options as you and I do to be able to wear a certain kind of clothes. My closet is relatively organized because I have CDO. I've gone through a purge of my clothes recently and it's made my life a lot easier as far as simplification of what I wear and when I wear it.

I have the same type of clothes, same type of undergarments consistent. I don't have to think about that every morning going, "What am I going to wear today?" I'm going to wear clothes today and I already have an idea what I'm going to wear, so I don't have to use any brain power to figure out, "Alright, what do I need to wear?"

If you're in a funky climate like I am in Toronto, there's going to be some variances in temperature, so, everything is pretty much long sleeve right now, because it's arctic cold in this city. eventually though, it's going to warm up, maybe, one day, I hope. You keep those clothes on standby and by minimizing the amount of clothes that you have everything that you have fits you.

If it fits you, you'll feel confident and then you will continue to feel confident and, quite frankly, if you're confident and you're happy, guess what? You're going to start losing weight. Because the stress isn't causing you to maintain weight.

I know these are all scientific facts. You can Google them all and see all the different things you can deal with. But at the end of the day the idea is to have the clothes that fit you, that you will wear, that you like wearing and you feel comfortable in. Get rid of the rest. All of a sudden you'll have room in your closet to be able to do a variety of different things and eventually if you see a shirt or slacks or a dress, not me, you, that fits that you like, you'll have room in your closet for it.

Tomorrow, again, we're going to talk about clutter and purging. I'll share some personal stories on how that's impacted my life over the last few years and probably in the last twenty.

Until then.