30 Days of Boundaries Day 29: Return to Your Core

 Photo by  Esteban Lopez  on  Unsplash

Photo by Esteban Lopez on Unsplash

When you don't have any boundaries in your life, you literally don't have the ability to do the things that you want to do. You're so focused on everything else but you, that your energy levels, motivation, just fall to the wayside, and you go to bed, but you don't sleep. You go to bed and you're not resting. You toss and turn because your brain is still trying to sort through everything that you went through or are going through. It's not a fun place to be. I know how you feel if you're in that state because I've been there. It wasn't fun. My 369 days didn't happen overnight, it built up over time. The challenge that we face is, when we're in the middle of it, or even at the beginning states of it, we don't even notice. I didn't notice until, literally, I was in the hospital and the cardiologist confirmed that I had a heart attack and that kicked off a chain of fun events.

Long story short, it was all preventable. I could have made different decisions, different choices, stood my ground, and had protections around me that would have prevented everything that happened. But I didn't, and lost it all. Good times. But, as I've referred to before and in conversations with people that know me well, it was the best thing that ever happened to me because it forced me to get back to the core of who I am.

Each of us are different. Each of us have our own gifts and skills, nuances, quirks, we are all individuals. We all have common traits, but we are all individual in how we perceive things and how we choose to do things, and I love helping people figure those things out. It keeps me motivated. It puts a spring in my step. It's something that I know I'm called to do. It's my mission to help as many people as possible save themselves from themselves.

It's not this 100% transformation, although, for some people, it might be. It's small steps. Finding time. Ultimately, that's what this is all about. With boundaries, it's finding more time. The time for the things that you want to do, when you want to do them, where you want to do them. If you're working 16, 18, 20 hour days, you need more time. Well, I don't sell hour 26, 27, 28, that, unfortunately, is not in my repertoire, but what I do offer is an ability to better use your 24 hours. First and foremost, carve off eight hours for sleep. Carve off time to work out or exercise. Carve out time for lunch and breaks.

These are all important because if you don't do them, if you don't take a break, you are going to break, I guarantee it. It happens to everyone, including you. You are not Superman. I don't care if you own a Superman shirt. I don't. I own a Batman shirt, but I don't own a Superman shirt. Although, there's a photo of me as a kid wearing a Superman shirt, and, to this day, I'm a little perplexed by that, because I never really was a Superman guy. Regardless of what your favorite comic book character happens to be, you do not have superpowers when it comes to not resting. You have superpowers, that's a given. You may not know what those are. I can help you find those too.

Soon, I'll be sharing some information about the 369 day system. Now, mind you, it won't take you 369 days to implement. My plan is to get you on your feet and back up and running to who you truly are in a much shorter period of time. Some people take longer, some people take shorter times. All up to you, it's in your hands, but we'll talk about some things that will help you really redefine who you are. One of those things is getting back time, how I go about that is actually looking at your time, see what you're doing, and track it for a period of time, so you can see patterns and rhythms. Then you figure out what works for you and what's not working for you because if it's not working for you, you need to stop doing it, and we can figure out ways on how.

Look for that post in the coming days. Contact me and share some things that you're struggling with. I'd love to hear from you and figure out how we can work together to get you to the you you want to be. T

ill next time, be well.