boundaries

Boundaries at work

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Photo by Bethany Legg on Unsplash

Most of my blog posts, tweets and podcasts you hear me talk and write about is personal boundaries. Something that happens in your life, what you're doing, the things that are impacting your life. But for many of us, we spend the majority of our waking hours, consistently, at our workplace. Often times, there are boundaries issues that we encounter every day, at the place we call, "Work." 

Organizations are starting to recognize that they need to take a longer, harder look at the boundaries that are going on within their workplace or the lack thereof. We're starting to see more and more people burning out. Doesn't matter what career it is. I have a focus on healthcare but I also work in education and other areas and I'm seeing at across that receptor where people are burning out. There's many reasons why. As much as we would like to point the finger at one reason, as with everything, there's always more ingredients to that pie than just one. When you add additional ingredients into things, it can change the temperature of everything involved. 

With organizations, we have the problem of overloading our staff with things that they need to do. Communication is usually a big problem. There's a communication crisis in America. We're starting to see that with all of the, "Me too," movement, stuff, the stories that keep coming out about harassment, people leaving the professions that they work in because they burned out. There's a huge problem. We need to address that as a society and as organizational leaders. The best way to do that is to talk with your people, find out what causing them problems. Give them a safe space to be able to come to you and tell you what's going on. 

Then, you can address things. Because if you provide a work environment, where people enjoy their work, you will see the results of that in improved outcomes with whatever they happen to be working on, quality of their work will improve, absenteeism will drop, sick days will drop, all these things. I see that. I've seen that throughout my career. The people that are taken care of, that do really well, rarely take days off other than their vacation days and personal days and whatnot, but those that are struggling will burnout through their sick days at a very rapid pace and if you have a tracking system in your workplace to keep track of it, you should be alerted to it sooner than later. 

The key thing is to get ahead of that, to figure out what's going on, to make sure there isn't something that the work environment is creating the sick days from happening. It could be something that's in their personal life. We're not robots. Start treating people and your teams like human beings. Take care of them, find out their struggles, do everything you can as an organization to help them, and you will have a great employee. 

If you're struggling with this as an organization or maybe you need to talk to somebody about the boundaries challenges that you're facing at work, reach out to me. Schedule a call with me by clicking this link, or the Book A Call button below.

Until then, be well.

 

 

 

 

 

Travel weary

Source:  Photo by  Anete Lūsiņa  on  Unsplash

Source:  Photo by Anete Lūsiņa on Unsplash

I'm just coming off another rapid-fire travel schedule, where in the last 5 weeks, I've been in:

  • San Diego
  • Tampa
  • Chicago
  • Detroit
  • With cameo appearances in Toronto, aka home.  

So how does the "Boundaries Guy" book himself that kind of travel schedule?

Ironically, with boundaries. 

All but the Tampa trip was pre-planned and scheduled.  Tampa was to visit my Mom who was hospitalized for several weeks, due to complications of intestinal surgery.  Thankfully she's on the road to recovery, albeit slowwwwww.

Back in the late 90s, I used to travel every week, installing network systems at small to mid-sized insurance agencies.  I would typically fly out early Monday morning, arrive at the client's office around lunch time, and work marathon hours until the new network was up and running.  Inevitably, there would be some issues with the install (missing parts, defective servers, not enough cabling, etc.) but somehow, most of the installs finished on time and with the new network up and running.

Little did I know then, but my ability to organize and prioritize tasks made those weekly deployments effective and efficient.  Those same skills allow me to travel with ease.

Years ago, when I was crossing US/Canada border on a daily basis, I signed up for the Nexus program, which basically is access to the express lane when crossing the border by land.  It also works for air, when flying between the US and Canada.  I'm also TSA-Pre certified, so I really save hours of my life by going in the pre-security checked lines.  

Even though I am efficient in how I travel (packed bags, carryon bag that easily fits below the seat in front of me, so I can avoid the overhead bin drama that EVERY flight seems to have), travel does take a toll.

Boundaries allowed me to coordinate those trips, and make the transition from stop to stop.  

Having said that, I'm tired.  Travel wears you out, no matter how much fun you have, or the quality of the hotel bed.  It's good to be home for a rest.

Along the travels I've met some incredible people.

 

 

Shark Tank's Kevin O'Leary and yours truly

Shark Tank's Kevin O'Leary and yours truly

Speaking at conferences to help people design the life that they want and DESERVE to live is a complete joy to me, even if tiring.  It creates situations like above, where you get to have a private conversation with interesting people.

I know what burnout feels like, and when you are tired from travel or huge work requirements, the ingredients for burnout are there.  The key is to recognize them early on, so you can take the steps necessary to correct course, and navigate to your true North.

If you're struggling with burnout or a lack of boundaries, I would love to have a no-obligation chat with you.  Click the button below to schedule a call with me.

Be well!

Meditation helps, but doesn't address the root cause of your stress

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Photo by Jared Rice on Unsplash

Meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, moments of zen.  All important to help you focus on the moment, and focus less on thoughts that are creating anxiety or depression.

The challenge though is that these are often temporary fixes, to the root issues that are creating the need for you to meditate.

If you are anxious about something that could happen in the future, or you’re depressed about situations in life that haven’t turned out the way you hoped, meditation can help you focus on this moment, and put on the back burner the issues you’re dealing with in life.

You’ll get relief and possibly rest after meditation exercises, and being mindful is a huge help to bring you present.  But does it fix the problems in your life?  Let’s look deeper.

We’ll start with anxiety.  Anxiety is worrying about a possible future state or situation/outcome.  You’re anxious for the results from your medical tests, or you’re worried about how your loved one will react to your last minute work meeting tonight.  Being mindful and meditation can get you focused on this moment, but you need to change your mindset that’s causing the anxiety in the first place.  

You need to create mental boundaries to prevent negative or worrisome ideas from renting space in your head.  This takes serious effort to create these boundaries, especially if you’ve never dealt with boundaries before.

Next up, depression.  Depression is worrying or being upset about events in the past, or things that led up to feelings today.  Similar to anxiety, you need boundaries to control your thoughts and how you react to these thoughts or issues.  

Having stronger mental and emotional boundaries in your life will make meditation work even better for you, and create a life of less stress, burnout, and other health issues.  

Another way of strengthening what meditation will do for you is to have consistent days.  I would love for you to get a free copy of my Successful Mornings checklist.  Click the link below for your own copy.

http://bit.ly/BLroutine

Also, if you need help with boundaries, visit BreakfastLeadership.com, and send us a message so we can schedule a call.

Be well!

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