Pre-Emptive Strike Leadership: Window of Tolerance

Window of Tolerance by Dr. Dan Siegel

Window of Tolerance by Dr. Dan Siegel

Imagine you are in a small, tight room about the size of a closet.  The only ventilation in the room is in the form of a small window that is open, filling the closet with fresh air that makes the cramped space somehow tolerable. Now, picture the window slowly closing. Imagine the way it becomes more difficult to breathe with every inch of open window you are losing.  By the time the window is almost closed, the room is stifling and you are gasping for air.  You might even feel yourself panicking, kind of like getting trapped in an elevator.  

The longer you are in that room struggling to breathe, the more irrational you become.  You’ll find you’re telling yourself stories about the danger you’re in, the loss that you’re going to experience, that no one is there to help you, that you’re completely alone with the craziness you feel inside and if you don’t get out immediately, you’re going to lose your mind. Ultimately what you’re feeling is that your very sense of survival is being threatened.  

Even if someone is in that room with you, the more they talk to you in a rational way, the more you want to attack them because you’re in such a state of fear that they now become the enemy. And, as with all enemies, they must be defeated and you’ll do anything to eliminate whatever is causing the extreme distress you’re feeling.

This is the image that illustrates a person’s window of tolerance.  This is where adversity and stress clash at their worst.  It’s what triggers the well-known “fight or flight” reaction in an individual – meaning a person is likely to flee the situation, become confrontational, or act in a way that is detrimental to everyone around them because, for them, they feel as if they are literally fighting for their life.

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How Insomnia and Burnout Are Closely Related

Insomnia is something that many people suffer from on an annual basis. Sleep seems like an impossibility for some, and it has long-lasting impact on your life.

Insomnia symptoms may include: Source of list from Mayo Clinic

  • Difficulty falling asleep at night

  • Waking up during the night

  • Waking up too early

  • Not feeling well-rested after a night's sleep

  • Daytime tiredness or sleepiness

  • Irritability, depression or anxiety

  • Difficulty paying attention, focusing on tasks or remembering

  • Increased errors or accidents

  • Ongoing worries about sleep (so ironic. Worrying about sleep can cause you to not sleep)

The symptoms above mimic burnout conditions. When you are burned out, your brain is so focused on addressing the damage that stress and burnout is causing on your body, that your body doesn’t have the energy to rest. Let me repeat that.

Under stress and burnout, your body doesn’t have enough energy to rest.

One of the symptoms mentioned above (waking up during the night) is a huge issue in the prevention of restful sleep. An article from Practical Pain Management discusses potential causes of disturbed sleep, and introduces CBT as a possible option for treatment.

Burnout is caused by many factors, but a lack of restful sleep in your life is a huge contributor. If you can’t rest, everything will tumble like a house of playing cards.

If you’re struggling with burnout, I want to help you get your life back. Click HERE to schedule a call with me to see how we can help you recover from burnout, and live the life you want and DESERVE!

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Pre-Emptive Strike Leadership: Unpacking The Invisible Baggage of Your Employees

Employees carry invisible baggage through the door with them every day.  Packed inside are the external stressors of life, expectations and fantasies about their job, and their history with power.  The contents of this invisible baggage influence an employee’s reactions and behavior in the workplace.  The contents may be invisible, but rest assured that there are a lot of visible clues to this baggage if you know what you’re looking for.  Let’s start by unpacking the invisible bags.  


 If you are alive, then you know that life is complicated and seems to be growing ever more so at an increasingly rapid rate.  Employees have an extraordinary number of external stressors that they carry with them into the workplace on a daily basis.  

 The stressors that employees are experiencing fall into one of three categories: (1) trauma; (2) stress; and (3) irritation.  Dealing with loved ones who are dying would fall into the trauma category. The struggles of being a single parent fall into the stress category.  Dealing with rude drivers and traffic both fall into the irritation category.  It can be tempting to dismiss “irritation stress”, but we all know the irritation associated with driving can actually represent a significant stress upon arriving at work.  

In Melanie Gordon Sheets’ book Out-of-Control: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) - Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Workbook for Getting Control of Our Emotions and Emotion-Driven Behavior, she identifies an extensive list of common stressors that are assaulting the population (this means your employees). Some items include: (For a full list, please order Pre-Emptive Strike Leadership!)

  • Challenges with their children

  • Difficult co-workers

  • Loved ones away at war/military service

  • Marital or relationship stress

  • Bad memories of the past

  • Daily hassles

  • Struggles of being a single parent

  • Stress

  • Inconvenience

  • Transportation issues (car breaks down, transit late or out of service making them late)

  • Stress from significant life changes

  • Not having enough time to accomplish what they want to do

  • Affording medications

Every single one of your employees is dealing with multiple stressors EVERY DAY.  It is their inescapable reality and, according to research, the less power and financial security one has, the greater the impact of each of these stressors.

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Stress in your employees’ personal lives is very real, complicated and playing out in myriad ways in their workplace, made all the more volatile because it must remain hidden.  The higher the stress, the higher the stakes. If the workplace environment is one that invalidates personal stress or emphasizes to employees that there’s no place for it at work, employees are much more likely to overreact to authority, nurse grudges, generate divisive environments, and look for outlets to release the building pressure.  

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Pre-Emptive Strike Leadership: The Threat Inside Your Walls

In this changing landscape of almost infinite channels of communication flow, a hunger for salacious news over facts, and the merging of personal/public/professional lives, the risks that employees represent to their organizations can rise to astronomical levels when accounting for liability, cost and distraction.  Situations such as former employees using social media to throw organizations into the spotlight (or “under the bus”), compromising the brand and the profitability of the organization, not to mention the longevity and legacy of the founders, executives and managers.  

 Let us be clear: employees are not inherently your enemy.  However, they do represent a very real threat that, if mishandled, can turn your employee into someone who behaves very much like the enemy.  The problem is, when organizational leaders are identifying risk, there is an obsession with scanning the horizon for danger while failing to look over their shoulders at their own troops.  If you wish to neutralize threats to your organization, you must possess the courage to look within your walls and learn the leadership skills to develop and deploy a targeted pre-emptive strike before it’s too late.  

When most organizations analyze risk they focus primarily on threats that are clearly definable, quantifiable and measurable, and most always associated with external factors.  The nature of these threats usually include economic, natural, legal, political and financial forces. Here are some examples of common “external threats” for different types of organizations (see if any of them look familiar):

Organizations are typically focused on market fluctuations; competition and consolidation; changes to federal, state and local regulations; mergers and acquisitions or divestitures; international operations; new products and services development; intellectual property infringement; economic conditions; attracting or retaining personnel; pricing pressures; margins; cost cutting; legal proceedings; cyclical revenue; product liability; quality and safety issues; supplier and vendor concerns; inability to acquire capital or financing; and predicting customer demand.

When was the last time you thought about the Trojan Horse? You know, the one that the Greeks left for the Trojans following ten years of battle? The Greeks, appearing to give up, sailed off into the distance and the Trojans gleefully rolled that big prized horse inside their gates.  We all know how that turned out.  The Trojans lowered their guard, went about their business, and out of the horse came the rest of the Greek army, who could now level the city of Troy from the inside out!

 You ever hear that story and wonder, “How could they not have guessed that horse was packed full of danger? Why didn’t they at least examine it a bit more closely?.  Seems kinda obvious, doesn’t it? Well, consider this…each of your employees has the potential to be a Trojan Horse inside the gates of your organization.  All the baggage they carry with them is inside that horse, waiting to emerge and take you down the moment you stop paying attention.

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Source of image: Inc. Magazine

Source of image: Inc. Magazine

The last month of 2018 was “interesting.”

I had taken quite the sabbatical from working, so I could unwind, reflect on the year that was ending, and prepare for what Drew Hagus is calling a Weird and Wild 2019.

I pretty much stopped looking at emails (other than mission critical emails regarding the new book), and was amazed about how MANY emails I get in a short period of time.

I also took a break for the most part from Social Media. This forced me to stop looking at the iBinky 24/7 and not checking Facebook/Instagram/Twitter all the time.

Followers still saw posts, due to my online scheduling tool, that posted without me. Subcontracting is fun, kids!

I read some books. Quite a few. All highly recommended.

Opportunity by Eben Pagan. I’ve had this book to finish for MONTHS. Irritated with myself for not finishing it sooner. Great eye-opening book for entrepreneurs.

Disease To Please by Harriet Braiker. Hi, my name is Michael and I’m a people pleaser. “Hi, Michael.” This book shook me and has changed me for the better.

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I’ve had this book to read on my Kindle for a long time. Watched the movie on Netflix during the holidays, so read the book in one day. Life changing.

Business Evolves, Leadership Endures by Andrea Redmond and Charles Tribbett III Disclaimer: I used to work for Andrea and Charles, when I worked at Russell Reynolds in Chicago in the late 90s. Damn I’m getting older. This book is a timeless example on leadership, and I particularly was impressed on the chapter about leaders with heart. Timely.

I planned on December being a quiet month for reflection and rest. I had no idea on the insights it would provide, and I’m so thankful for the authors of the books that made me grow as a person.

2019 will be a weird and wild year for all of us. Enjoy the ride!

If you’re struggling with burnout, I want to help you get your life back. Click HERE to schedule a call with me to see how we can help you recover from burnout, and live the life you want and DESERVE!

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How I Am Finishing The Year Strong

Often we hear the advice "Finish the year STRONG."  Many of us think this means hustle, try to close some sales before the holidays hit, crush it, etc.

My interpretation of finishing the year strong is to be rested, renewed, restore your energy, so that the next year will be the most impactful year of your life.

Because of boundaries and self-love for myself, I am not checking or responding to emails from December 22, 2018, until January 7, 2019.  

I’ll also be taking a break from Social Media during this time. Imagine how long the battery life on my iBinky will last now, lol.

I recommend you do the same in your respective lives.  Instead of having fear of missing out (FOMO), take this season and celebrate the joy of missing out (JOMO).

I recognized within myself that when you are an entrepreneur and also work in a full-time role, days are long. It’s been an amazingly productive year for me, and I am thankful that I have the skills and desire to do what I do.

I also (thankfully) realized that I could become burned out if I didn’t take a rock-solid break from work.

2019 is going to be an amazing year for all of us. Let’s enter into next year with renewed energy, vigor, and determination to be our best selves.

Be well, and all the best this holiday season!

If you’re struggling with burnout, I want to help you get your life back. Click HERE to schedule a call with me to see how we can help you recover from burnout, and live the life you want and DESERVE!

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6 Characteristics of Good Leadership in 2019

Source: Photo by  Heidi Sandstrom.  on  Unsplash

Source: Photo by Heidi Sandstrom. on Unsplash

Guest post from Jessica Watson

Successful leaders have power and knowledge behind their companies. They are coming around them. They need to know when they take up opportunities to mobilize employees to work hard towards their goals.

Capable leaders get the title "manager" or "boss". They can achieve the right acting, enthusiasm and unconsciousness, and the level of luck and time. Some may know that they are capable of delivering these skills, but most of the leadership qualities can be handled by learning and practices. The one who knows the way to a leader is the way to show. A good leader is a futuristic vision and his ideas are realistic about the real world's success stories.

We have created the list of 6 Good Leadership characteristics for 2019 that will help you in your business tasks:

1: Useful Communication

Powerful leaders know when and when to ask. They can explain all clearly and concisely with all of their employees on a specific mission based on useful speakers and company goals. If people do not understand or do not know your expectations, they will be shortened, so you are very useful.

You can contact all levels: one, department and full staff, telephone, email, and social media. Communications and verbal transmissions of communications are structured in a steady stream system, so accessible and accessible to people at different levels.

2: Good Vision

For a vision, there is a clear picture of where a leader should go and how goals can be achieved. However, that is not enough. Leaders should share their opinions with others and a leader must use his / her vision and serve it well, so customers and employees trust it. He needs to find clear and emotional words to be attractive to others.

3: Empowerment

It is important to focus on important responsibilities when resting to others. Through this, I want to improve your supporters and work for them. If you continue to have your microfinance with your wife, it will be hopeless and very important and can not focus on important issues. Enter the workpieces to your downstairs and see how they work. They need all the support they need, and they have an opportunity to give them the responsibility.

4: Openness in Ideas

Though not necessarily in the current ways of thinking, new ideas can be heard and opened up. Good leaders can accept opinions from employees and effectively use them. Creates mutual respect and trust between open minds and employees. The group is always interested to share new ideas. Do you think Steve Jobs came with all the idea for Apple and Android products and campaigns? We do not think so.

5: Common sense

Strong time, hysteria with control and structure - everything has its advantages, but with a little joke, you can usually act a bit more relaxed. It is important to solve humor tensions, wipe out the hostility or break the peak of the slap. Useful comedy about how to use the comedy to encourage employees. Humor is not incompatible with the duties of a conscious work, but rather a humorist leadership is much more relaxed and more humane because employees are more intense. You should not be lost as a leader.

6: Honesty and Integrity

In all circumstances (private and public), the same values as a person will show fairness. Such leaders express their confidence and surrender their relationship to any doubt. This is a fair process, not predictable reactions, restrictive comments, and total tactics. Very desirable for a staff who works with strong solidarity and residence. In addition, justice is important. Integrity is the same measure of others. A leader should ask all the leaders before the verdict. Avoid results without the required data.


You have these good qualities as a good leader, but if you do not have these qualities, you can fight to create a code in the world of leadership. You need to set a good example to follow others. Your dedication, emotion, empathy, honesty and honesty play. Good leadership skills and decision making are important for a leader's success and failure. Finally, the innovation and creative thinking, as well as the vision for the future, is a pair of important traits that stand for a leader.

Jessica Watson writes for websites and blogs for two years. She had a fair share of writing in various places, but his main focus was on technology, smartphone and finance. Currently, she is working with client website called that provides free apks downloads.

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Are You Always Thinking About Work? You Might Be Burned Out

Photo by  Riccardo Mion

Photo by Riccardo Mion

Are you unable to stop thinking about work?

Leading up to my 369 Days, I was checking email from 6am until 11pm 7 days a week, because I was getting emails during those hours.

Who is to blame?


I could’ve ignored those emails, I could’ve stopped sending emails (new or replies). I could’ve told by boss(es) that I was off-line after 5pm and on weekends. But I didn’t, and I have two stents in my heart because of my bad decisions.

Fast forward 9 years later, now I don’t check emails 24/7. I don’t send emails to my team after 5pm on workdays, and definitely not on weekends. Has the world ended? Not that I can tell.

On my smartphone (commonly referred as iBinky), I don’t have the email app to get my work mail on the phone. I have to open up a website and log in, in order to access my mail. That way mail is not being constantly funnelled to my phone. I have to go fetch it (good boy!).

Here are my go-to steps to cut back on constant thoughts of work:

  • Schedule your shut down of work every work day. If your work day ends at 5pm, then that’s when you stop working. Our bodies and minds are not designed for 24/7 work, so why do we continue to expect that of ourselves?

  • Turn off email notifications on your smartphone, or delete the mail app altogether. If you’re an entrepreneur/solpreneur, then this may not be the best decision, but at least minimize the number of times you check email in a day.

  • Install a time limit app on your phone Here’s a post of some good options

  • Get a hobby. Remember hobbies? Things you did for fun? Yeah, maybe try doing that again.

  • Journal your work thoughts. Every time you think about work, write it down, and what you’re thinking about. If you are constantly thinking about work, your hand is going to get hella tired of writing.

If you’re struggling with burnout, I want to help you get your life back. Click HERE to schedule a call with me to see how we can help you recover from burnout, and live the life you want and DESERVE!

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I help people recover from or prevent burnout in their lives.  Register here for my next webinar on going from burnout to your ideal life.

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How a Lack of Motivation Could Be Burnout

Photo by Matthew Henry

Photo by Matthew Henry

Do you often lack motivation to do anything?

When you are in a state of burnout, your motivation is nowhere to be found. Often times you wish you could just sit and do nothing (which is ironic, because a great way for you to prevent burnout in the first place is to rediscover boredom, and do nothing.)

Your body is depleted, so any energy your body has, is going to address the damage that stress and burnout is causing. Your emotional well being is damaged as a result, and you end up being extra moody, and possibly show signs of depression.

How you view everything will determine how everything happens in your life.

When you’re stressed, your ability to make clear decisions is more challenging, because your brain is allocating power to deal with the aftermath of stress. Think about it: When you’re tired, and someone asks you a decision on what you would like to dinner, it’s not an easy decision, is it?

Because your brain isn’t fully available to you, because it’s programmed to allocate resources to address what your body is asking for. If your body is in pain, your brain is spending time trying to fix that pain. If you’re tired due to lack of restful sleep, you have aches, so your brain will be focusing on those aches.

See the trend?

Stress takes away your mental and physical energy to function.

You have a choice to be burned out or not. It’s up to you. No pill, person, guru, spiritual leader can change that. It’s on you, boss. Yes, seek guidance and help if you’re highly stressed and/or burned out, because an outside point of view can guide you to the best steps to take, to recover from stress and burnout.

When I was going through my burnout, I was not a nice person. Everyone knew I was burned out except me. I didn’t read the burnout memo. I was short with people, frustrated over little (and big) things, and felt that I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders, both at work and at home. Not a good situation for anyone.

If you’re struggling with burnout, I want to help you get your life back. Click HERE to schedule a call with me to see how we can help you recover from burnout, and live the life you want and DESERVE!

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How The GM Closure In Oshawa Can Learn From Windsor, Pontiac & Flint

Source: CBC News

Source: CBC News

Oshawa, Ontario is dealing with news that I’ve personally lived through twice.

General Motors is ending operations at their Oshawa-based auto manufacturing plants.

News like this can (and often does) cripple communities. 2,800 GM employees will lose their jobs. The ripple effect of this is much larger than 2,800 people.

Families are impacted. Income from working for the auto-sector is hard to match with the skillset that automotive employees have. Many will struggle to replace that income, possibly having to work two retail and/or minimum wage roles, to make up what they were earning in the auto plants.

With people earning less, they will be spending less, which has a ripple effect on smaller business, which can (and often do) close up, due to lack of sales.

See what happens when a large employer leaves your community?

Windsor knows this feeling. Fiat-Chrysler is really the only main automaker left in Windsor, Ontario. GM? Gone (and they’re slowly clearing away the demolished plant that has been dormant for many years). Ford has an engine plant, but mark my words, if they need to build the engines more efficiently (aka cheaper), they’ll close that down too.

Windsor, much like Detroit rode the ups and downs of the auto sector. Growing up in Pontiac, Michigan I saw up close and personal what happens when things are going well, and when they are not.

My family (Great Grandfather, Grandfather, Father, Uncles, Cousins, friends, etc) all worked for the auto sector. I’ve seen how this kind of news impacts people, families, communities. My heart breaks for Oshawa this morning.

When GM and Ford closed or scaled back operations in Windsor, it created a ripple effect and made the city suffer the 2008 recession even worse than other parts of Ontario, and Canada.

The City of Pontiac basically died, after GM closed shop. Crime rose through the roof, and the City filed bankruptcy, and basically had no local government, police or fire services, etc.

So did Flint, Michigan. Economic depression continues to impact that city, and their water supply still isn't truly safe to drink. The ripple effect of having your community supported by ONE company is a slippery slope.

The safety nets of Canada will help minimize the impact of GM leaving Oshawa in 2019, but it’s still going to hurt.

For the employees of GM-Oshawa, look into getting training NOW. Toronto has a HUGE shortage of elevator repair technicians due to the bazillion condos that are being built in the GTA. General labours are in constant need. Learn new skills. If you’ve been working in the plant for more than 5 years, you’ve learned new skills because how cars are built today is different than even 5 years ago.

For the City of Oshawa, get creative. You’re losing an employer that provides a big tax incentive to your community. Be proactive now, so you can avoid what happened to Pontiac, Michigan.

Be well!

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Why You Need More Than Sleep To Cure Burnout


There is no shortage of posts saying that sleep is important to help reduce stress and prevent (or reduce) burnout.  

Signs of burnout include exhaustion, insomnia, interrupted sleep and getting sick more often.

The challenge of getting a good night of sleep if you are burned out is a big one. 

During burnout, your mind is constantly thinking about work, life, family, responsibilities, struggles (health, financial, personal), and it's often coupled with a lack of motivation to do anything about it.

Sleeping 8 + hours per night is beneficial, but if your sleep isn't truly restful sleep, your body is not able to recover from the toxicity that you face/digest every day.  No wonder you're irritable!

Burnout is real.  I had severe burnout in 2009, that nearly took my life.  After a year of significant losses, I rebuilt my life from the bottom-up, and now I live a life with reduced stress and zero burnout.  There's hope for all that are going through high-stress and burnout, but simply stating get more sleep is just a band-aid, and it doesn't address the root cause(s) of your burnout.

I'm a big fan of journalling.  It allows you to get what is in your head, onto paper, so that you can review it later and see where you are today, compared to when you wrote your note.

Journalling your challenges and stressful situations is helpful, as it can provide clues as to what's causing the stress in your life, and give hints to how to reduce (or hopefully eliminate) those stressful times.

There are reasons why you are not resting when you sleep.  The key is to determine what those reasons are, so that you can deal with those causes head on.  

For the next week, keep a notepad by your nightstand (not on your smartphone, but a piece of paper and a writing instrument), and when your mind starts racing about things, write down what those things are.  

In the morning, review that list and next to the list of things, write down some reasons why these things are bothering you.  

Over a week or so, you should start seeing some trends, and it can help shed light on what the issues are in your life that are causing you stress and leading to your burnout state.

Once you have compiled the lists and can see patterns of what's going on, next you need to figure out how to resolve those issues.  Easier said than done, but it can be done!

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How Batman Continues To Influence me

1976 and 2016.

1976 and 2016.

The Dark Knight has been the hero I've needed throughout my life

(Originally published on Thrive Global)

Wikipedia describes my favorite (favourite in Canada) fictional character this way:

 Batman is a fictional superhero appearing in American comic books published by DC Comics. The character was created by artist Bob Kane and writer Bill Finger,[1][2] (Bolded Bill Finger on purpose) and first appeared in Detective Comics #27, in 1939. Originally named the "Bat-Man", the character is also referred to by such epithets as the Caped Crusader, the Dark Knight, and the World's Greatest Detective.

My first memory of Batman is the 1960s TV show, which thankfully Channel 20 in Detroit showed when I was a little kid.  I've seen every episode 10x over, and had all of the Mego figures growing up (Thanks Mom & Dad!)

I collected the comic books, owned the Batcave.  Had every version of the Batmobile, watched every movie (including the one with George Clooney, which sobered me up after having a liquid lunch prior to watching it.) 

My brain is wired to notice the Bat logo almost immediately.  I was at a autumn harvest this weekend, and in the country store that sold a variety of fall items, there was a wall of decorations, hooks, etc, and I immediately noticed one that said Batcave on it, with the Bat Logo as the background.  


When asked why I love the character so much, it takes me time to explain because quite simply, Batman has been a part of my entire life, so I would say that Batman is a part of me.

Batman is one of the fictional characters that is relatable, because he is human.  His powers were in his brain, and not created by a spider bite, or coming to Earth from Krypton.  Yes, the comic version seems as if he is abnormally muscular, but that body is achievable.

Batman is one of those characters that you love, but also feel sorry for, because he doesn't seem to be able to be at peace.  He lost his parents, and he carries that loss with him.  The character never gets over that loss, which haunts him.

Losses are inevitable.  My 369 Days  taught me all about losses, and even after experiencing my year of worst-case scenarios, I recovered from those losses, forgave those that had a part in those losses (including forgiving myself, which was crucial in my recovery), and now I live a better life.

In a weird sort of way, I wish Batman would forgive those that took his parents' lives.  We'd lose Batman, but Bruce Wayne would get back himself.

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How To Have Boundaries In A Screen-Saturated World

Our eyes are glued to our screens, which is causing us to not see what's important

(Originally posted on Thrive Global)


In 2007, Steve Jobs gave us the iPhone.  Little did we know how impactful these little devices have changed our lives.  I use my smartphone for everything.  GPS, music, email, social media, health management, calendar scheduling, communications (yes, I use the phone icon), camera, alarm clock (I'm guessing Arianna wouldn't be pleased with this news!), MLB at Bat, etc.

I run my business from this device.  Without it, I would be lugging around a laptop (remember when laptops weighed over 10 lbs?  #Bulky).

A while back it became pretty clear that I use my phone a bit too much.  My brother referred to it as my "iBinky", aka pacifier.  #Ouch.

He's right.  I'm constantly being soothed by this awesome yet addictive device.  

So, I decided to establish boundaries around usage.  I speak on boundaries and burnout, based on my own burnout in 2009/10, where in 369 Days, I lost EVERYTHING.  Google it, it's a fun story ;)

Establishing boundaries around any habit is a challenge.  Eben Pagan puts it best (ironically) when he says you have to install a habit like you would an app on your phone.  

Apple's latest iOS release has a Time Limit feature, where you can set limits on what apps you can use on your phone.  This speaks volumes to what's going on with society and our own respective iBinkys and Androids.  (Note, I was an Android user and they have awesome phones!)

I'm using the Time Limit feature (Android has the feature as well, Google it!) and it's been interesting to say the least.  Some days it's important for me to access apps longer than the schedule I've set, so it's still a work in progress.

I do recommend that you use some sort of time management on your screen time, if anything to see how many hours you're logging on your phone each day.  You will be shocked. #6HoursOnInstagram?

I also invested in blue light glasses, as recommended by a good colleague of mine Bryan Falchuk.  Great guy, look him up #DoADay. Eye strain is bad, and we won't know the long-term effects for a few years, but I'm guessing it won't be pretty.

A tip I learned is to close your eyes every 30 minutes or so after you've had screen time.  Please don't do this while walking or driving, or in a meeting with your boss.  This will give your eyes a break, so that your eyes don't eventually break.

Similar to the 30 minute eye rest, get up out of your chair (if you're physically able, too many of us who write things like this forget that a considerable portion of our population are wheelchair bound, so on behalf of authors everywhere, I apologize.)  It's important to be physically active, and put away our iBinky from time to time.

A couple weeks ago, I went to dinner on Friday night, and purposely left my iBinky at home.  The horror!  Dinner?  In public? No phone?  Such a risk taker.  Two weeks later, the Earth is still spinning, life still exists.  The world did not end.  What did happen was uninterrupted conversations.  Imagine a world if we could do that?

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